My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry,
James 1:19 NIV
https://james.bible/james-1-19

Jesus says the man speaks out of the heart, and a divided house will not stand. As I work on myself, I am beginning to understand that the split house is the cognitive dissonance within the home of my heart. Sometimes, the tribe within causes resistance because they want to protect the wounded child from being re-traumatized. Yes, sometimes the enemy tries to cause division, and he will use others to sway us from doing the will of God. Still, I’ve been listening to my inner dialog, the exiled, wounded children of my past, whose loved ones abandoned them or have shown indifference toward them; even I have done so by suppressing them to the depts within, imprisoning them in dungeons. Now, I try to remember to ask the Holy Spirit for wisdom before making decisions, which I did not do before; I am trying to slow down, pause, and discern and recognize the difference by asking the Holy Spirit for wisdom. Most of the time, it’s better to stay quiet, place my hand on my heart, minister my exiled parts, and reassure them that Jesus is Lord, and He sits on the throne of my heart. He has redeemed us and has given back our locus of control. We can’t change the past, nor can we change others, but we can trust the One who never abandoned us.

Jesus, You are the Redeemer of my soul, and I see Your unfailing love work mightily in my life and heart; thank You for setting my captives free and redeeming what was lost. I give You all the praise and glory. Lord, may Your Holy Spirit rest on us and provide us with wisdom, grace, and mercy, and Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, causing us to be slow to speak, quick to listen to Your still small voice, and slow to become angry. You are my Refuge and Strength; surround us with Your Army as we walk through this day; let the eyes of our enemies see You standing before us, causing them to tremble and flee. May no weapon formed against us prosper, but let the work of our hands bring You glory and praise. Our confidence is in You; You understand us completely, and we are complete in Your finished work on the Cross, not our works; in Jesus Christ, amen.